Last weekend I got the opportunity to go to a 4 day seminar by Tony Robbins called Unleash the Power Within. I had the opportunity to get the ticket at reduced rate, which was good since I probably would not have spent about a 1000 dollars on something I had never heard about before. I knew he was famous, but I never knew what for.
I expected a stuffy room, dim lighting and about 40 to a 100 people who would be frantically writing down lessons for the entire weekend. I expected long lunch-breaks in which I could lie in the sun, process some of the lessons, sleep a bit. I expected long question and answer sessions. You know, the typical self-help experience. Something you would be excited about for a week, and then after that something you would occasional think about, while continuing in old habits and patterns.
Non of this was true.
You can say I was quite surprised to end up at a huge convention center in San Jose, where I had to share the room with 6.000 raving enthusiastic others, all in search of happiness. I had not done my research well enough. I had no idea.
Before I continue, there is one thing you will have to understand about Europeans. And particularly about Dutch people (yes we are that tiny country attached to Germany).
When you are growing up in Europe, one thing is literally burned into your brain by the educational system: Crowds are scary, look at the second World War. Especially when you are from a small country like holland, that got fully crushed by the Germans. So this idea that terror starts with crowds, is not something you want to believe, it is something that they make you believe. And they teach you this: Never Ever follow mass movement, always question authority, and always think for yourself. And I still agree with this idea. But I also thinks it limits us when it comes to being able to enjoy yourself in a crowd.
In Europe the school system confronts you with the horrors of the second world war and the most raw way you can imagine. At a young age they make you look at pictures of mass-graves in Auschwitch, you get to watch speeches of Hitler and listen to the horrific stories of survivors. You get to watch the war movies, and discuss things with your classmates. Then, when during primary school you are filled up with stories about the destructive nature of human kind, it continues in high school for another ten years. No wonder that by the age of 20, I believed all people were designed to destroy. And I knew this: Never Ever become a person that dissolves into a crowd.
This is probably why I have a hard time blindly listening to authority. It has given me quite a lot of problems in the USA already. With everythying that people tell me to do, I ask the question: Why? Quite annoying when it comes to simple requests. But that was demanded of us, it was part of the story, NEVER again a world war.
My attitude has worked against me and also worked for me. How else are we going to excel as humanity, if we never question the norm? We need to be able to step out of the mass, in order to create. But in my case, it was time to step into one.
So back to Tony Robbins. You can understand my state of surprise to be ending up in a crowd of 6.000 people that were all screaming dancing and shouting. It intimidated me, scared me but simultaneously, amused me. I had never been part of such a movement before. I forced myself to sit down, shut up and experience.
I didn’t. I actually got up after a while, and started jumping when others where jumping too. I guess my joy overcame my imprinted fears.
What I didn’t expect from that weekend: To meet the most charismatic human being that I have ever seen in my life. Tony Robbins is not just another spiritual teacher. There is a realness and spiciness to I had not yet experienced in any other situation.
After one day, had completely abandoned my idea about crowds. This crowd was moved by one thing only: Love.
The second day I had the fortunate opportunity to go see Tony Robbins at the Singularity University (Robbins had one of his trainers lead 2 of the 4 days of the seminar, and he was able to speak at other locations meanwhile). So we went to NASA in California where the university is located. My friends are part of the University and asked us to join. So now I did get to see Robbins in a group of about 40/60 people (I will be on stage next week myself there, to talk about Ourgasms.com).
While listening to him there, it became ever more clear to me. This man cares, he really cares about others. And he is using the best way he can imagine to reach as many people as he can at the same time. And obviously he makes good money with that, perhaps that can be the inspiration for others, to realize that it is OK to make money, as long as you do it with good intentions.
Tony Robbins gets a room of 6000 people to let go of their fears, their past believe systems and he lets them replace it with ideas that they themselves think are good for them. And he understands what it means to enjoy life. And that is the message he spreads. He uses music and happy sounds to help his messages. And even though it was not entirely my thing, it works. And if it works, then why change that?
I was very impressed, even more so because he uses sexuality as a very important aspect of humans lives (by the reaction of people around I noticed not everybody was ready to accept that lesson, more reasons for Ourgasms.com to reach out).
We live in a certain time in history where we will have to make massive shifts in consciousness, we need work towards the shift on an entire planet. And I had always wondered how we would ever be able to accomplish this. And now I start to understand. We need the crowd, we need the mass movement, for we are all the same. We (and especially europeans) should now be ok with the thought that masses make the change. And that it can be used for the better. We need change of our heart frequencies, we need change in our ability to open up and love. And people like Tony Robbins make me realize that it might actually be possible to reach everybody out there. But you have to use the crowd. Love spreads easier than hate. And if we can get 6000 people to deeply love each other, then lets see what we can do with the world!
Thank you Tony Robbins for this incredible experience and for being such a giant. There where others have used their charisma and power of influence for inflicting pain, you use it for the highest goal possible, to spread love.